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The Crime Of Blaming Others For Your Unmet Needs And Fears


Photo by helloimnik on Unsplash Not too long ago, I spoke about not being my own protector. I am projecting onto others the responsibility for catering to my unmet needs. This is how I figured it out: For the last few months, I have been learning about the stock market. As such, to keep on top of things I need to get back to the pc, watch the news and overall get ready with a comfortable amount...

I got rejected – This is what it did to me


Life has been going on as normal. Every day I had the stress that I’m not doing enough and I’m procrastinating too much. Every day I dug deeper and deeper into my emotions to find what’s blocking the workflow. Then last week I had a major trauma triggered in the most surprisingly pleasant way. A dichotomy I know, but let me explain. An imaginary character, an NPC got bitchy with...

Finding My Passion In life


I am in the process of finding my passion in life, my joi de vivre. Growing up, I was not allowed to be myself. I was only praised when I held the same values as others in the family. This was worsened as I was the youngest child with two much older siblings. I effectively grew up in a family of four adults. This meant that instead of developing my own personality and values, I developed a hybrid...

The Cure For Hate And Discrimination


Photo by Nicholas Swatz A while ago I had the very rare opportunity to vent about a socially unacceptable subject. It was related to the hate I harboured for a certain demographic. This is How I came to understand the other side and in doing so Find the Cure for hate I don’t want to hate! Hate comes from fear and ignorance. I don’t want to be ignorant because, from my personal...

I Gave Up On My Goals


My goals have been sorely lacking in the last few months. This is what it did to me… This is going to be a rough one. Not for me, but I am thinking it will for a lot of you. If you’re a regular you may notice that I haven’t written anything in months. Last night just before I was getting ready to go to sleep, I watched a video by Dr. Kanojia, otherwise known as HealthyGamerGG...

Why You Should Be Honest With Yourself


Photo by Joshua Earle This my story on why you should be honest with yourself. A bit of background: Yesterday, I was going through a lot of stress. More than usual and it wasn’t coming from any apparent source. Among other things was the stress of my dad’s birthday. I haven’t spoken to him in 6 months or more. It’s been so long and I have to face him. It was always my plan...

The curse of my perfectionism and procrastination


My perfectionism and procrastination have plagued me my whole life. When I was a child, my parents gave me a new set of pencils. I only sharpened one pencil and used that one pencil until it was all used up. I then systematically went onto the next pencil and the next and so on. This was not an isolated case. Obsessive-compulsive you may say? Hmm… Although I now have far fewer...

The Importance of Our Sacred Personal Space


Photo by Faye Cornish Maybe you want to be left alone while taking a shower without anyone screaming at you from behind the door. Maybe you have a certain ritual around breakfast time or nobody else can make that perfect coffee/meal that you love to have every day. No matter who or where you are in the world you’ve formed sacred places, ritual and objects. what does it mean for something to...

Why is he ignoring me? This is how men really feel


Some context: This is a 95% raw conversation Aria and I had with a member of our community. Nina needed to know “why is he ignoring me?” after a breakup. She had sent him a long text wall explaining her point of view and why an answer is crucial for her well being. James didn’t answer so Aria had the idea of me roleplaying as Nina’s boyfriend to shed light on the situation...

The importance of rest


In I’ve been a slave to stress I realised that I was spinning my wheels in place as I was stressed out of my mind. Only recently did I discover the true importance of rest. I did not solve my stress problem. Last time you heard from me, I realised that I needed to focus on doing what I felt like doing instead of “have to’s“, but the problem is I did not actually put that...

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